If you live with chronic illness, then likely, you’re all too familiar with the impacts it can have on your mental health. I recently wrote about the ways that Fibro and mental health issues coincide here: https://fightingwithfibro.com/2019/05/10/12-reasons-why-fibro-and-mental-health-issues-coincide/
Three years ago, in the midst of some of my darkest hours, I was finally convinced to go to therapy. Read here about why I believe a Therapist can truly improve how you live with chronic illness (and beyond): https://fightingwithfibro.com/2019/01/28/can-a-therapist-actually-improve-life-with-chronic-illness/
After spending 18 months going to a Goddess of a Therapist, I took a break. But, recently, after some family events revisited old traumas, I returned to her. Barely ten minutes into our session, I remembered how and why therapy is SO helpful. My Therapist is really, really great at re-framing my critical, self deprecating thoughts; which are totally unhelpful. What a gift it is to have such troubling, heavy thoughts lifted from weighing on my already over taxed mind and heart.
While I could probably write endlessly of the benefits of going to therapy, I instead want to share fifteen super helpful lessons that have come from going to therapy:
- You are enough. Maybe not to everyone, but then those that can’t appreciate you don’t deserve you.
- Nothing in life is perfect, nor is anyone. Everyone else is equally as flawed as you.
- Do not compare yourself to anyone else. We are all unique.
- You have purpose. If that purpose is not what you intended, create a new one.
- Let go of insignificant things. If it will not be earth shattering in a year, forget it.
- Set boundaries. Setting boundaries does not make you a bad person. It makes you resigned in commanding the respect you deserve.
- Do not be afraid to eliminate people from your life. Sometimes, it can set you free.
- Do not invalidate yourself. There is a valid reason you feel the way you do or have made the choices you have made.
- Do not let others’ opinions make you question your own intentions.
- Not everything is your fault; regardless of the blame others may assign.
- Do not let other’s negativity affect who and what you are.
- Treat others the way you wish to be treated BUT try treating yourself the way you treat others.
- Say you’re sorry. But remember that others need to say it too.
- All is not to be forgiven. Some things are unforgivable.
- Let go of regret or work to eliminate what prevents you from doing so.
It is of tremendous comfort to be back in therapy, especially when old wounds have re-opened. But I have come to realize too, that therapy isn’t only for when things are difficult. Clearly, when I return to old habits so easily, there is much work left to be done on successfully re-framing my thoughts. It isn’t easy and often, it’s very painful, but I’m ready now to do that hard work.
Much Love, <3 Stace